We are going to see my mother for the first time this summer. She hasn’t seen us since May. As much as she wanted a granddaughter, she’s been too selfish and angry to suck it up, talk to us, and actually see her. The latest conversation, three long weeks after she didn’t accept my apology for her taking the toys back and didn’t respond to my email about how we needed to work out our differences, was all about how self-absorbed my husband is. Boyfiend, who for the past 5 years has brought his toolbox to her house every time we’ve gone, just in case she needs him to fix something or install one of her thousands of internet purchases.

I am on edge, wondering how this is going to go. Will she be genuinely happy to see us, which seems unlikely, or will she act happy, silently seething with rage?

We’re staying overnight and coming home tomorrow. Wish us luck.