I can’t decide whether I want to find out the gender of the baby before it’s born. Here are a few factors in the decision making process:
- I hate surprises.
- Although we’re definitely thinking about names, I don’t plan on naming the baby before it’s born- as much as it’s cute when other people do it, I can’t start referring to my belly by name.
- Boyfiend wants to be surprised.
- Even if we do find out, I don’t actually plan on telling anyone. I’m sure I may slip up, but I’m certainly not planning on announcing it. (I much prefer gender-neutral baby paraphernalia to the typical blue and pink.)
- Even though I don’t plan on telling anyone, there’s no way I could keep it from Boyfiend. If I knew he’d want to know too, even though he doesn’t want to know.
- The doctors already know because of the amnio.
- We have a full anatomy ultrasound on Wednesday, so we can probably see for ourselves what sex it is should the little peanut choose to reveal itself. (Its legs were modestly crossed last time.)
So what do you think? Should I let Boyfiend have his fun and be surprised? I could have found out almost two weeks ago but didn’t. Or should I do what I’ve been dying to do since I learned I was pregnant and find out?
starbender | 23-Oct-05 at 5:15 pm | Permalink
Aww…. Let it be a surprise! That’s half the fun of that day.
Anonymous | 23-Oct-05 at 8:20 pm | Permalink
I vote for a surprise too. Finding out at the birth will be like an additional reward for…you know, all that labor. It’s one of the few truly beautiful surprises in life. Plus you’ll be less likely to think of him/her by a name during pregnancy if you don’t know.
clipper829 | 23-Oct-05 at 8:23 pm | Permalink
I say find out. I’m planning on finding out, if the baby cooperates at our ultrasound. I’m still decorating in a neutral way (not big on the pink/blue either) and I don’t think I’ll call my belly by name once I know what it is, either.
I mean, I’m surprised enough that there’s a BABY coming, so I figure why not know ahead of time.
-Erin
AliRose | 24-Oct-05 at 9:10 am | Permalink
I say wait. If Boyfiend doesn’t want to know, I think the most mature and kind thing to do would be to grant him this, especially since you’re wavering on it.
Because you know you’d tell him if you knew, it would be like taking the decision away from him completely.
lisamechelle | 24-Oct-05 at 12:49 pm | Permalink
HEY! What happened to my comment?! I posted before, but I’ll post again. I say find out! But then, my family opens all our gifts on Christmas Eve because of my impatient ass, too, LOL! Patience is a virtue — and I have none.
When Pigs Sing | 24-Oct-05 at 7:25 pm | Permalink
Maybe you could be surprised on the first one and not on the second one? Or vice versa? It sounds like it wouldn’t really matter to you if you’re gender neutral on colors. I will HAVE to find out. I’m too anal-retentive to not know. Plus, I don’t want to pick two names. Hee! Lazy to the core.
Chris | 25-Oct-05 at 12:05 am | Permalink
We found out… we didn’t like the idea of anyone knowing (the doctors) without us knowing. Plus, it gave us the chance to focus on one gender for naming, not two.
In the end, it was good that we did, because we were both convinced we were having a girl… finding out Jakob’s gender gave us several months to get used to the idea of a boy.