I called my dad last night and learned that he is going to Rosh Hashanah dinner at my aunt’s. They invited him, my mother’s ex-husband, my aunt’s ex-brother-in-law, and told me I couldn’t bring my children to dinner. Not only is he going, my mother is picking him up and driving him there. What a giant “fuck you.”
I was tempted to tell him not to go because he is my dad and he should back me up on this one. But it doesn’t seem worth it to put him in the middle any more than he already is and to force him to take sides. If asked I’m sure he would take my side. But he’d never understand why that means he shouldn’t go when my family hasn’t been invited. For him it would just seem rude. He has already purchased the kosher wine.
We will be at home tonight. I thought about making my own dinner but it just seems too sad and depressing. Despite the situation with my mother, I wanted to see my family on the Jewish New Year and was told I could not.
The whole situation is way fucked up.